Facebook Publication Date: 5/9/2022 22:05

I was giving myself a short break by watching Queer Eye, and Karamo, I think it was him, but in any case, whoever said it, an excellent observation was made.

He says that he does not think in terms of ‘coming out’; he talks more about *inviting in*.

Coming out, he says, cedes power to people who may or may not accept you, your realizations, your motivations, or your testimony.

Inviting people in, on the other hand, is all about holding on to your sense of self and personal power, even in, especially in, your vulnerability.

You are not coming out of a confining closet so much as inviting people in to your expansive interior space.

Your own metaphorical living room.

So yes– I do think that you need to out yourself, but not with the expectation of approbation or reinforcement.

Your coming out is inviting people into your point of view, your hard won convictions, and the journey that you made to get to where you are now.

Some people will not accept your invitation to cross your threshold; similarly, your discernment may tell you that some people should not enter your sanctum.

Yet.

But for those who do enter, and approach your metaphorical home with curiosity and with grace and with respect, those are the ones you will influence and mentor.

You are not coming out for yourself, or only for yourself.

You are coming out to make sure that everyone is welcome at your own flat and round table.

You are learning to serve with courage.

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