Blog Posts

  • Legacy: A Tribute to Taco Bell Bobbye

    I am posting this for Lace the night before Bobbye Jean’s Memorial. This video speaks to all we are working towards and Bobbye’s role in it. Spoiler alert: It also speaks to our relational ethics regarding Daniel Werner.

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  • Relational Ethics with Claudia Rankine – How Can I Say This So We Can Stay in This Car Together?

    Another audio from On Being, this time with Claudia Rankine. Again, read the transcript, but be sure to listen to the unedited version. I have found that most of the depth is in the unheard cuts. I also want you to really listen for the *dynamic in the exchange itself* between Krista and Claudia. I…

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  • Relational Ethics with Alain de Botton – The True Hard Work of Love and Relationships

    We are starting this month with audio from the On Being radio show. Read the transcript, but listen to the unedited version. This is, like most of what we will be presenting this month, done with romantic dyadic (two person) relationships in mind. But I feel deeply that the principles usually reserved for couples work…

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  • Relational Ethics with Ruby Sales – The Inner Life of Social Change and How We Can Start to Heal the Pain of Racial Division

    The “On Being” interview between Krista Tippett and Ruby Sales is short, but powerful. This is about ‘circling back’ to what Krista and Ruby call religion, but it can also considered to be ‘coming back to our original convictions before life and conditioning stripped them out’–whether the root of those convictions and understandings folds in…

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  • A brown and a beige hand are shown, handshaking across orange and gold lumps of a lumpy crossing. The text reads: "sometimes, when we’re in community discussions, say, “This is a bit of a lumpy crossing for us.” It gives space and permission to say, “Yeah it is.” ... That, in itself, is a really good place to get to." The quote is attributed to Pádraig Ó Tuama. The graphic includes the caption, "Relational Ethics with Lace on Race".

    Relational Ethics with Pádraig Ó Tuama – Belonging Creates and Undoes Us and The Complicated Art of Reconciliation

    Relational ethics are at the core of our efficacy in our walk toward our North Star commitment to lessen and mitigate the harm endured by Black and Brown people, perpetuated by white people and white supremacy. I’ve been talking for some time about reviving our Relational Ethics series, both to revisit previous content and to…

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  • Changes to Post Comments at Lace on Race

    We are making some changes at the Lace on Race Cafe! Nothing big; minor refreshes. Kinda like changing out the drapes, or getting new napkin rings and forks for the kitchen.  As most of you know these last months have been an exhilarating and productive time. Over the last year, we have reached more people…

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  • Racial Justice is a Group Trek

    You know y’all, as your favorite cult leader, I get a lot of shade thrown at me for the very thing this meme speaks to. We do a lot of repetition. People say the practically the same thing all the time. We engage with people who don’t quite get it and we never ever kick…

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  • *Are* We Ready to Ride?

    A quiet welp, but a welp nonetheless. How *do* we have this conversation? How does it land for each and every cohort? Is a wistfulness allowed and acknowledged? Is there integrity that means to be intact here? We, meaning North America, we understand oppression. We understand subjugation. We understand being relegated to second-class status. We…

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  • Note From the Nursing Home Nook

    Notes from the Nursing Home Nook. This is the first in what might become a series, as I sit in the little nook in mom’s room. Most of the time I am here, watching her breathe. In and out. In and out. An occasional moan. An even rarer chuckle. Sometimes she stretches her legs. Sometimes…

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  • Lace’s Hope & Vision 2022

    This has been something of a constant prayer since last February. Let’s talk about it. More than one person has asked me how I have kept going since the debacle with Holly and Annie and Chris last year. It’s never easy to give a good, cogent, and it’s definitely been difficult to give a brief…

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