Blog Posts
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A Thanks, And A Pivot
First off, I want to express a deep thank you. For the first time since we began setting goals, we made our Basic Budget in two weeks. Actually, we were there this weekend, and I was planning to tell you all this then. It’s a big deal. A big deal that got usurped by all…
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Notes From The Crucible Part 2–The Pivot To Race
In part one of this series, we talked about inherent worth; that my life, that any life actually, is no less valid or legitimate for work or inspiration or lessons gleaned–or not– for the world by that life. This is a vitally important truth. Hold on to it as we go deeper. So often, whenever…
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Notes From The Crucible Part 1–On The Issue Of Worth
Last week I shared with you all the fact of my 13 year anniversary of my attempted suicide. It was gratifying to receive the support that I did, on the Lace on Race Page, on the website, and on my personal Page. Because of that, I want to address the issue that has been on…
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Lace On Race Guidelines
updated 10/26/2020 The mission or North Star of Lace on Race is to lessen and mitigate the harm endured by Black and Brown people, perpetuated by white people. For a long time, we have resisted formal guidelines for Lace on Race, the assumption being that people would enter this space, and the ethos and mission…
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Addressing My Privilege: Why I say “White People”
First and foremost, it is important for me to state up front that my thoughts here are not new. I do not desire to stand up alone on a stage, speaking as if I, as a white woman, have any authority on the manner. I am not the originator of the discussion on racism, and…
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On Really Considering My Internal Resistance
On Feb 28 2020 Lace posted: Really consider your feelings, your clench, and your internal resistance as I offer this: White women feel themselves equal to women of color who out earn, out achieve, and out perform them, but feel themselves better than their actual peers of color. Process and discuss. All of my feelings…
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This Is It: The (Very) Straightforward Early March Ask
Yup. This is it. Ok. I have a lot to write tonight, and at least three engagements I promised to return to, and because Claire has frequent flier miles, and Marlise got her taxes in, now they can both come to San Diego, ambush me by the orange tree, sit me down on a patio…
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February Thank You
This should have been written and published yesterday, but life, and really funky threads got in the way. My entire to do list got hijacked by two really funky engagements. That’s not quite true. As in our lives together here, the work I thought I needed to do was supplanted by the work I am…
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The Problem With Adam. With All The Adams.
So. Missing Sunday School. Thanks, Adam. Sorry Tesa. And sorry Marlise and Claire. I know I am holding you up. I’ll get to everything, I promise! What a weekend. So much didn’t get done. because other stuff crashed in. The two posts on my personal page yesterday, and now this with Adam. Let’s talk about…
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Pay Transparency And Race
I bet you’re wondering why I published the New York Times’ story about salary disclosure. First and foremost, it’s a good article, that lays out the benefits, as well as the potential pitfalls, of salary transparency. The second reason, is that it’s important when we talk about equity, particularly about racial equity, though the Times…