Blog Posts

  • Conversation with Claire: Two Highways

    In the last week or so I’ve read the posts and comments on Lace on Race with a stomach ache of nerves and a tangle of irritation in my reader’s mind. Comments to Lace about how Facebook works shoot acid into my stomach. Explanations of what offends “me” or what I will or won’t accept…

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  • Practice Prevents Paralysis

    This is what integrity and congruence looks like. Preemptive: Yes, I know that there are some built-in advantages and privileges that the author has that a lot of us as working-class and middle-class people do not. At the salary he’s alluding to he probably has a sizeable nest egg, and he also probably has Amazon…

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  • The Value of Vulnerability

    When I was a single adult in my 20’s, I was heavily involved in my church. I sought out opportunities to be in leadership roles in the adult single’s group there. I had some very close friendships, but mostly among the rest of the small leadership group. My relationship with much of that community ~…

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  • Notes From The Crucible Part 3–The Cure is Connection

    Earlier today, the Lace on Race staff and I immersed ourselves in sharing about our lives and ethical journeys. We come from different places, and enjoy diversity in how we ‘do’ our ethical and relational walks, but I am gratified to say that we share a common core. I listened to (or, more accurately, read)…

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  • Lace On The Race: Black Agency vs. White Demands

    Lace on RaceLace on the Race When white people have, as they have since the whole Dem race shook out, agonized over what they should do, or more often, wanted to know about black voter behavior, what I say first and foremost is: the first thing to do is ask us. This is not just…

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  • Notes From The Coronavirus Couch: Rags And Respectability; Purses and Profiling and Persecution

    Tikka Rose is low on kibble and chicken treats. I am out of fixins for fruit salad. I have to go out today. I am getting ready for battle. Not with the virus so much as with public perception. My battle armor: perfectly pressed skirt; twinset; good black medium heels. Anne Klein watch. Tasteful jewelry…

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