Getting Started in Our Community

Our founder, Lace Watkins, set forth an ethos that we continue to value and practice as we work together to confront racism white supremacy around and within us. Unlike many other online spaces, the Lace on Race Facebook page has guidelines for your participation. For those at the beginning of your walk and your work, we also have a set of foundational essays by Lace that underpin our ethos and provide tools for the difficult work we do here.

Community Guidelines

We recognize that most online communities do not set many expectations for how you participate. But. We are new people doing new things in new ways. Everyone who engages here and on our Facebook page is expected to adhere to our community guidelines.

Lace on Race Guidelines
Guidelines Intro
Guideline 1 – We are not an entertainment space.
Guideline 2 – No Reacts to Posts. Ever.
Guideline 3 – Facebook Actively Suppresses Us
Guideline 4 – No New Material?
Guideline 5 – Thoughtful Posts
Guideline 6 – Lurking and Spectating Is Not Enough
Guideline 7 – Engage with Other Community Members
Guideline 8 – Answer the Question You Are Asked
Guideline 9 – No Blocking
Guideline 10 – Read the Pinned Posts (Foundational Essays Below)
Guideline 11 – What Is Required Reading?
Guideline 12 – Practice Kind Candor
Guideline 13 – Safe-ish Space
Guideline 14 – Outside Materials
Guideline 15 – No Material Edits or Deletes
Guideline 16 – No Shaming or Humiliation
Guideline 17 – We Do Our Work in Public
Guideline 18 – How to Handle Conflict
Guideline 19 – Financial Engagement is Crucial
Guidelines Wrap-up

Foundational Essays

These essays, sometimes referred to as “pinned posts” were those that Lace considered foundational and fundamental for everyone joining our community. They are listed topically below.

Community Onboarding

So, you know our basic expectations. What else do you need to know to get your walk with us started on the right foot?

Onboarding Intro – Part 1
Onboarding Intro – Part 2
The Face of Lace – A Personal Reflection
Doing the Work with Resolve, Resilience, and Relentless Reliability
This is the Work
Why the Ask?

Relational Ethics

One thing that sets us most apart from others doing this work is our focus on relationship. We walk as a community, seeing eye-to-eye, and in relationship with each other. We discuss difficult things. Here you’ll find the tools you need to hold your own hand, mind your slosh, and be a safe actor in this space.

Series Challenge
Post 1: Krista Tippett with Alain de Botton
Post 2: Krista Tippett with Claudia Rankine
Post 3: Boundaries and Privilege
Post 4: Krista Tippett with Pádraig Ó Tuama
Post 5: Krista Tippett with Ruby Sales
Post 6: Introduction to Terry Real
Post 7: Terry Real
Post 8: Krista Tippett with Darnell Moore

The Six Tenets

These tenets set forth a path toward growing and growing up in our journey toward racial equity.

The Six Tenets – A Re-Introduction
Tenet 1: Lean In
Tenet 2: Dig Deep
Tenet 3: Plant Roots
Tenet 4: Grow In
Tenet 5: Grow Up
Tenet 6: Grow Out

Obstacles to Growth and Community

What can possibly go wrong? Well, there’s a lot that can get in our way. Learn about those obstacles and how to avoid them here.

Obstacles to Growth and Community Part 1
Obstacles to Growth and Community Part 2
Obstacles to Growth and Community Part 3
Two Highways

Encouragement, Exhortation, and the “Can’t”

This work IS hard work. We don’t always feel optimistic about how we do it. When you get to thinking you just can’t… learn a little more about what “can’t” means when it comes to racial equity work.

Encouragement, Exhortation, and the Can’t Part 1
Encouragement, Exhortation, and the Can’t Part 2
On Kidneys, Coffees, and Dimes

Reacts, Emojis, and Engagement

One big difference between this space and the rest of Facebook is that here you are expected to do more than just click a “react” and scroll past a post. Why does that make a difference? Learn more here.

Reacts/Emojis vs Engagement
More on Reacts
White Supremacy and Reacts/Emojis

White Women and Oppression

Most of the walkers here at Lace on Race are white women. White women occupy a particularly fraught position within patriarchal white supremacy. Dig into how white women follow a pattern of weaponizing that position.

White Women and Oppression: Post 1
White Women and Oppression: Post 2
White Women and Oppression: The Crux
White Women and Oppression: Final Post
White Women and Oppression: Follow Up
Coffee with Marlise

Critical Discussion Posts

Practice walking with the skills you’ve learned by confronting some topics that demand our attention and our efforts.

On Boycotts
Reparations/Restitution – A Game of Chicken
Offending from the Victim Position
The Face of Lace
American History of White Supremacy
Lab Coats On
Location, Location
Language and Transcribing in the Court
Books
All In
On the Move
What’s in a Name
On Engagement
The Heart of It

Hope and Vision

Lace on Race is still stretching and growing. Learn what Lace, the Board of Directors, and some frequent contributors have envisioned and hope for from this space and ourselves.

Hopes: An Introduction
Sitting in Liminal Spaces
A Quilt of Vision: Abiding in Community
Reflect on Whiteness, Reject the Myths, Engage in “Good Trouble”
Weekend of Hope: The Lace on Race Vision
I Won’t Be a Racial Equity Rip Van Winkle
Breaking Down the Barriers to True Connection