Where The Rubber Meets The Road: When School Choice Clashes With The Clench

Let’s talk about Mission Drift. And about dissonance.

And about framing. And about, yes, The Clench.

In this New York Times article the tension between living out the ideals of racial equity and doing what one feels is best for their families come into stark relief.

This is an interesting place to have this tension and dissonance. The community was planned to ‘bake in’ integration and diverse community when it was founded fifty years ago. It has attracted those on the progressive end of the spectrum, as the NYT says: ” They were Democrats, they said, consultants to social justice nonprofits, teachers, veterans’ advocates. ” And a startling number of them oppose a new redistricting plan that would course correct a trend of segregation in a community that not only prided itself on its diversity, but had actually built diversity into its ethos and its praxis.

One issue that the community faces is that it is now, decades later, effectively two communities: the original development, and newer annexations that have veered from the semi utopian 1960’s vision. These newer developments are different from that vision, that included single family and affordable multi family options; the newer developments are more homogeneous, more affluent, and less diverse, with mostly white and Asian residents, while those in the original development have more Black and Latinx students, and more relative income insecurity, as is to be expected from a more inclusive housing stock, and the realities of American educational and employment discrimination, and hence, income distribution.

The two high schools have different reputations (however real or percieved) and demographics, and a plan to introduce more equity and diversity between the two schools have been met with strong opposition.

That this is racialized is clear. What is uncomfortable is that there is a cohort of people of color who are, in a more ‘civil’ way than their white counterparts who are also in opposition to be sure, still vocally opposed to the change.

That there is social capital in the mix is also true.

It has attracted those on the progressive end of the spectrum; as the NYT says, ” They were Democrats, they said, consultants to social justice nonprofits, teachers, veterans’ advocates. ” And a startling number of them oppose a new redistricting plan that would course correct a trend of segregation in a community that not only prided itself on its diversity, but built diversity into its ethos and its praxis.

Quote: Dana Goldstein; New York Times

But I want to pivot, as the NYT did, to more than the parents’ views and fears.

I want to think about what it means to children who see people in the community basically making them into pariahs. That the opposition is careful about language and framing makes it more concerning, not less; that said framing is careful about talking about the risks and downsides to the cohort they want to keep away from is disingenuous at best.

The teens at Wilde Lake know exactly what the parents of River Hill think of them; know that their distaste at ‘sacrificing’ their children actually means. That this opposition consists of voters who cast their ballots ‘the right way’, who are in helping professions and promote social justice everywhere but in this crucial part of their own lives is not lost on them. That there are even some Black and Latinx parents who oppose the change does not make the rhetoric go down any easier.

Let’s talk about us here in our community of Lace on Race, and how we make choices in our own circles of influence, and whether doing all the right things in service to ostensibly committed rock solid values matter when one choice wipes out all that goodwill.

Let’s deeply reflect about how the optics look to those on the marginalized part of the slash.

The arguments made to justify what is essentially a racialized and class based choice would be laughable were they not so damaging. Citing fear on behalf of the very students they reject, they spoke of ‘… the freedom to choose a public school to the freedom to choose an abortion. If the redistricting plan moved forward, they said, students might die in car crashes driving to campuses further away. They might turn to suicide because of the increased stress of longer travel times.’

As I read it, I had to wonder about the relative integrity of the arguments against: some red meat racism on the part of some of the white parents, as opposed to the civil discourse meant to reframe and obfuscate by groups who were loathe to be plain about the politics of exclusion. At the end of the day, which is more searing?

Again, pivot to the children, who know unequivocally how those of the west side think of them. How can this not affect them?

And then think of your own areas, how some kids in exurbs and rural areas risk the same long drives without comment; how they do not feel they have to defend not only their schools but themselves and their very humanity.

Some of the students of Wilde Lake are reconsidering the plan, but certainly not for the same reasons. Do they, at bottom, want to be in close contact with students who feel themselves better then they? Who, put bluntly, feel they are slumming?

50 years ago, the people who opted in to Columbia knew what they were buying; knew the ethos and endorsed it. Now, that ethos has sharply eroded to the point of so much dust, and the community, however the eventual outcome will be decimated. Is it still a place of equity? Has the dream of the original developer been set aside?

And in our areas, whether it be in Iowa or Indiana or California or Colorado, lest we are too quick to demonize the west end residents of Columbia, we are no better.

Here in San Diego, in our own districts, there have been tension around this very thing, to the point of some San Diego neighborhoods opting into whiter school districts (hi Poway!); and in our East County, a fight about where students in La Mesa, El Cajon, Lemon Grove and Spring Valley, inner ring suburbs all, but with strikingly different demographics, are allowed to go. This matters. It’s more than just about education; more than about drive time; more than about even funding.

It’s about values.

Who are we going to be? And how do we pass our values along to our children?

After all of this, will there still be a Columbia as was first envisioned? Or has it regressed back to the fetid time a half century ago?


13 responses to “Where The Rubber Meets The Road: When School Choice Clashes With The Clench”

  1. Christin Spoolstra Avatar
    Christin Spoolstra

    Me too. Am embarrassed that I fell so far behind in being human.

    Is there a way to set up email notifications? I almost missed this.

  2. Lace Watkins Avatar
    Lace Watkins

    I am glad you have returned.

  3. Christin Spoolstra Avatar
    Christin Spoolstra

    My family was one of those who sold our home to move, crossing even a state line, to a “better” school district. I wonder what my brother and I lost in that move, what values were ingrained in us because of it.

  4. Christin Spoolstra Avatar
    Christin Spoolstra

    “Who are we going to be? And how do we pass our values along to our children?”
    I think a lot about dissonance and what commitment really means. About how our lives must embody our words, which are a reflection of deepest, gut beliefs. Decisions like these are the true tell of our values. We justify a lot of evils on the front of giving “better lives” to our children, and I appreciate how Lace has flipped it: it’s not about what the “better” school can give our children but what values we’re imparting to them. Because, as Lace says, for the students, this is a discussion not just about their school but about their very humanity. There’s still a lot in my life that I’m justifying away (primarily how I budget both my time and my money), that reveals that my values are still self-interested (which also means white supremacy-interested). These decisions in our lives allow us to make a pivot. There are big ones like this community decision but there are endless daily decisions that I can be making to change my own values. Today my decision was to return to LoR.

  5. Danielle Joy Holcombe Avatar
    Danielle Joy Holcombe

    The amount of denial involved in creating this false narrative (I mean the “reasons not connected to race” that this community cites in their arguments) is just gross. It’s this vast network of lies covering every aspect of our lives.

    Thinking about how the teens at Wilde Lake feel makes me very sad. I can absolutely understand why they wouldn’t be excited about River Hill kids coming there after this. I have always felt such sorrow when I would read about black people/communities with a desire for segregation. Sad for myself. Sad for what would be missing – but taking my feelings out of the equation, its easy to see why many would prefer the idea of creating your own and just moving your lives in a direction that would greatly reduce contact with white people.

    This comment feels incomplete but my thoughts are swirling right now. This is one community, one story – but I’ve been pondering the Ally Henny post about the conversation with white folks about oppression and how we center ourselves and tear black folks down at every turn and my thoughts are overwhelmed with the magnitude of violence.

  6. Kathy Kratchmer Avatar
    Kathy Kratchmer

    One of my friends commented recently:
    “Parents in this city [she is writing about MPS, MN, but it could be anywhere at all] say they want small class sizes and community schools UNLESS the school close to them is predominantly black. Then, they make their peace with 30 kids in a kindergarten class and long bus rides.”

    White people will never embrace integrated schools and communities until the twin myths of white supremacy and black pathology are dead and buried….and both are still alive and well in the US.

  7. Marlise Avatar
    Marlise

    What I walked away with from reading this was that I can teach my kids all I want but if I’m not actually living out what I teach, they will see the bulls***. They will either abandon me as hypocrite or model me as hypocrite. History shows the latter tends to be the case. I can say all I want about justice but if I don’t live out my convictions or always make exceptions for my (and my children’s) benefit, then everything I am teaching is just dust, a mirage.

  8. Claire Avatar
    Claire

    The article says “He cited several studies on policies that he said would help low-income students more than desegregation would: pre-K, meditation, tutoring, school choice.” (The “he” is Dr Sharma, who is opposed to the desegregation plan. I won’t even acknowledge that he may be using his status as a pediatrician to claim expertise on consequences of desegregation on the poorer children.) Yes, quality pre-K, meditation/insight, tutoring/being a tutor, and school choice are potentially helpful. Also, longer school days, longer school year, and, yes, transportation to a more distant school that offers all of the above. Here are things that don’t help – “the narrative” about a school, and its students, and their parents. It’s mortifying that any parent would suggest that an average of 2 more miles on the bus could drive otherwise healthy students to suicide. All of the students in earshot of this crap are learning it and internalizing it. So-called “poor” students are validating what they already know white people think of them. So-called “not poor” students are learning the tricks of the white supremacy trade – and you do not have to be white to adopt those patterns of talking and thinking. I don’t have children of my own, and decisions about my stepsons’ schools were not made by me and nowhere near my decision. I was sad and demoralized to hear the beliefs of the Japanese side of our family about the kids’ schoolmates. The kids themselves have grown up to intentionally seek diversity in their neighborhoods and their social lives, and to live their values, which include being Asian-American *and*rejecting most of their Japanese elders’ racism. Hardest for me were my own friends who became semi-crazed about their own children’s schools. Who sold houses and moved to “better” school district. Who learned that even “good” schools have bad teachers, hateful policies, and easily ignore destructive. Who learned that white kids can be dangerous. Who learned that they could not completely protect their children from the outside world.

  9. Pam Milewski Avatar
    Pam Milewski

    I’m struck by the way the group opposing bussing is so careful (with the help of consultants) with their language. We liberal word are very good at knowing the right words. We want to be seen a nice and don’t want to offend. It’s about self-image. But when it comes to actions, right back to the clench. We don’t want to make a real sacrifice or take any (perceived) risk.

    As to how this looks to the kids at the less advantaged school? Boy does that send them a horrible and hurtful message. I can understand why they might not want kids from the rich white area brought in.

  10. Laura Berwick Avatar
    Laura Berwick

    As someone who had to ride a bus for almost an hour to get to school in the town fifteen miles away, I go, “Huh???” Over the weirdly nit-picky beef over transit time. I’m sure it seems very real to the people who propound it as a rationale, since I imagine they’ve done a lot of rationalizing for themselves. So it’s time for me to do an inventory of my own rationalizing.

    Those who can afford it have always had private schools, even very private schools of one or two within a home. And I went to a private university, and I know that I benefited a lot from that.

    I guess what really irritates me is that the “school quality” rationalization is something we’ve created, we’ve realized, through how we find public schools. We made that system work the way it does, so we can say in all “fairness” that the mostly white school in an affluent neighborhood is objectively better, so we have a completely “colorblind” excuse for sending our kids there. While the people with fewer resources overall have fewer choices other than their local, less funded school.

    The system isn’t broken. It’s working as designed. Would a more equitable funding structure for all public schools magically integrate them? Prooooobably not. But equitable funding would probably be a sign of a less racist society, one that doesn’t need the crutch that would remove?

    I don’t have kids, so I know I have a luxury in looking at things from a less directly invested point of view. But I’m glad that the small town my sister teaches in and will send her kids to school is is more racially diverse than the one we grew up in. I think she’s learning a lot, and I hope her kids will, to.

  11. Ann Blanton Avatar

    This is my area of the world and school segregation is the norm around here. Most do it through private schools with college level prices. I homeschool so I cannot speak to the emotion of parents who think they are protecting their children. I can say, they are not. They are continuing the racism that plagues our country. How incredibly sad that the developer’s wonderful dream (except for the color blind phrasing), ends up as such a tragic display of the racism they were attempting to irradicate. As demonized children, the Wilde students, cannot help but be angry, and hopefully outspoken, which will inevitably be turned on them. It is heartbreaking. Who are we raising? I will be following this closely. I am grateful, as always, for what you bring to my attention.

  12. Varda L Avatar
    Varda L

    What I see here is the fundamental covert racism of American society. It just gets more and more nuanced and modern – but it never really changes. “I got mine.” But now white people aren’t allowed to say that Black people deserve less – because they have been logicked out of that position. And they aren’t allowed to say that “low income” people should just get better jobs because they have been historied out of that position. Now they are telling each other how to say exactly the same thing by being super concerned by the terrible impacts of 5 minutes on the bus.

    No matter how equitable we start out, as long as we make it about “me” and not “us” and as long as we don’t keep expanding that us – we will end up the way we have been programmed.

  13. Varda L Avatar
    Varda L

    What I see here is the fundamental covert racism of American society. It just gets more and more nuanced and modern – but it never really changes. “I got mine.” But now white people aren’t allowed to say that Black people deserve less – because they have been logicked out of that position. And they aren’t allowed to say that “low income” people should just get better jobs because they have been historied out of that position. Now they are telling each other how to say exactly the same thing by being super concerned by the terrible impacts of 5 minutes on the bus.

    No matter how equitable we start out, as long as we make it about “me” and not “us” and as long as we don’t keep expanding that us – we will end up the way we have been programmed.

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