*We are extremely careful about the materials we present to you, and outside resources are assumed to have been vetted by us. Therefore, sharing any resources (by link, meme or by recommending certain reading) in the public community space is prohibited. We do recognize that there are a lot of good resources out there and we too are reading some of the same authors and articles that you all are reading. This is not to say that we reject all outside resources, but we do require that any resources you wish to present be shared with the admin team via messenger.
IF YOU THINK YOU HAVE AN EXCELLENT RESOURCE THAT MUST BE SHARED, TRY SITTING WITH IT FOR 6-9 MONTHS BEFORE YOU MESSAGE US. That may sound like a long time, but many of us walk into this space thinking we already know so much and have so much to offer; and you have. However, the great majority of what is offered are resources we feel are not in alignment with the LoR mission or ethos. That discernment–is it right for the space that we are curating here?–can only be discerned by those who have been here for awhile and have internalized said ethos and mission.
After you’ve walked here for 6-9 months, see if you still think that resource is necessary. A lot of times you will find that particular piece spoke to you at the place you were at in your life, but it is not quite so earth shattering anymore as you have grown. The admin team wishes to be available via messenger as necessary and in particular, to intervene if this space is being made un-safe. But the LoR messenger inbox is regularly overflowing with recommended resources which can detract from other necessary work.
As well, we deeply care about pacing and timing; some resources are indeed good, but we as a group are not ready for them yet. (Strong hint: if everyone read and engaged with the pinned posts, particularly the Relational Ethics series, we would be ready that much faster.)
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https://docs.google.com/document/d/1mSz6WqBgJxVYQV4-gjdTkAxiJzIQP-NAZU6clU_75rc/edit