Fourth Night of Hanukkah

“Ancient Rabbis understood the Torah’s assertion that all humans descended from Adam to mean that we are all created equal. No one can ever say “My ancestor is greater than yours,” because we all have the same ancestor. This isn’t a scientific statement, it’s a moral one: We are all part of the same human family, and none of us is more or less important than anyone else.

8 NIGHTS, 8 JEWISH VALUES: REFLECTIONS FOR CHANUKAH ON THE JEWISH OBLIGATION TO BUILD A BETTER WORLD” –Sarah Hurwitz

I simply love how Hurwitz approaches the subject of equality, another Jewish value that holds great import as we look through the lens of racial justice.

It’s funny/not funny how equality is thrown about as a concept. It’s funny/not funny how we assert this value, even as we walk it back before the ink gets dry.

I have heard people say ‘I treat everyone like equals’ and look around for the freshest Nutter Butter, not even slightly aware of what they actually said.

Treating people ‘like equals’ is not the same as affirming their value. Hurwitz cuts to the core of the issue when she talks about how we spring from one source. But it’s so easy to forget that, and so easy to, yet again, succumb to how the world keeps score.

Pedigree, heritage, lineage are not in themselves bad things, and I do not at all think that Hurwitz is suggesting that. What they are not are proxies for worth, which is how we often treat them.

It’s true in our individual lives, and it’s also true in how we approach the work and the walk of racial justice.

When we want to prove our bonafides, usually the first thing we do is to tell, and to expect, what we feel are our props for length of time doing the work.

But. My answer to this is often hard to hear–time served counts for little. When people say or do harmful things and are called on it, often the first thing from their lips are variations of the following: ‘But I marched with King!’ ‘I served on a board!’ ‘I took a workshop!’

Worthy things all. And if they were built upon and held fast, all the better.

But in this work, for you, as well as for myself, we cannot rest on laurels.

Past work you have done can be grounding and foundational. It does not, not at all, give you a pass from doing the work now. Work that was considered cutting edge even ten years ago, needs to be re examined in light of current realities. We need to decide that we will always be learning, which demands a humble teachable spirit.

Put another way, we, part of the same family, must push the reset button everyday. That does not mean that what was learned or lived is unimportant; it can inform our next steps. But insisting that the way that was learned years ago, and who we were years ago leaves us fully equipped for the present is simply not true.

So here at Lace on Race, we don’t flout our achievements in a top down way. Here, we realize that everyone has something to teach us, and that each of us takes the same place at the table, ready to teach and be taught, to be mentored and to mentor, and to affirm the flat and round table where we break bread and remember our shared heritage of justice.

And another day ends.


8 responses to “Fourth Night of Hanukkah”

  1. Shannon Brescher Shea Avatar
    Shannon Brescher Shea

    “When we want to prove our bonafides, usually the first thing we do is to tell, and to expect, what we feel are our props for length of time doing the work.”
    I know my first instinct is to give my credentials to do the work, whether academic or in terms of experience. Or to judge other people on their credentials, going back to a previous night. One of the earliest lessons I remember learning at Lace on Race is when I judged someone based on their academic credentials and Lace pointed out why that was perpetuating harm. I’m continuing to think about how I can learn humbly and respect everyone enough to learn from them, regardless of their experience or credentials. That’s especially true of people who have learned experience, as Black people do with racism. That learned experience means so much more than any experience I have or can ever have.

  2. Vicki van den Eikhof Avatar
    Vicki van den Eikhof

    “Treating people as equals is not the same as affirming their value.” I really resonated with that statement. I have four children. I *could* treat them all equally, and certainly have in some situations. But that type of equality quickly falls apart in the stresses of everyday life. It’s actually not in their best interest for me to treat all my children exactly equally. It *IS* in their best interest to provide them what they need, individually. Pivoting to race makes the analogy gigantic. I can’t expect to treat everyone I meet equally. I could try, but I would fail. I can require that I seek to truly understand those I interact with. I can listen and respond with what they actually need. That is truly affirming their individual worth. Treating everyone equally is the opposite of affirming individual worth. (Cross-posted on FB)

  3. Deanna Avatar
    Deanna

    Now I’ve watched the video of Lace, I have more thoughts bopping around about this. Pushing the reset button every day on our work makes me think of what it is like living with a family. I work hard to understand my kids, to not slosh on them, to overcome obstacles together. And every day — although we enjoy the fruits of the work we’ve done to better love and support and respect and value each other — every day we start over, journeying through that day. My kids aren’t my projects; they are my companions through this stretch of life. I think Lace’s “daily reset” comment when it comes to racial justice work helps me to see the relational aspect of social justice work better. Cross posted on Facebook comments to video.

  4. Deanna Avatar
    Deanna

    Read and affirmed. I can’t hide behind being new here, or less eloquent, or less experienced. We all come to the table together to follow the North Star.

  5. Christin Spoolstra Avatar
    Christin Spoolstra

    I keep thinking about Lace’s video a couple weeks ago about no longer saying “I have nothing to learn from that person.” And I know there are people I still dismiss in that way. “Treating people ‘like equals’ is not the same as affirming their value.” And this is a place where I’m still working on fully envisioning and living out eye to eye relationship. Because there are people in my life who do not share the same values I do, that we are on such fundamentally different foundations, that I’m not giving value to their words or beliefs and that’s so easy to transfer into not giving value to their personhood.

    I’m also thinking about how Holly and others have spoken about equity and equality and how starting from inequality and jumping to equity most certainly is not affirming the value of people of color. It’s in these ways that appeals to treating people equally (a color blind approach) are weaponized and cause further harm.

    So how do we move toward this vision of true equality? The ideals of true community, of family, and how that relates to eye to eye and communal responsibility. And all that is not possible without that willingness to learn and grow together every day. So I commit to not holding on to past actions or accolades but instead taking every day as a fresh day to lessen and mitigate harm.

  6. Michelle Wicks Cypher Avatar
    Michelle Wicks Cypher

    I absolutely love this. I love that we all are here to learn and to learn from each other. Anything I have learned or done in the past is great only as a foundation and stepping stone for learning and doing more. It is not a pedestal for resting on. It is only beneficial if it helps me go deeper to learn even more and to take that growth to do less harm as I continue to grow.

  7. Emily Holzknecht Avatar
    Emily Holzknecht

    Everyone has something to teach us. And at the same time other people are not a lesson for me to consume. My learning is not central. The North Star is central. “Everyone has something to teach us” must be equalizing and elevating, not objectifying. “We are all part of the same human family, and none of us is more or less important than anyone else.” *crossposted*

  8. Rebecca McClinton Avatar
    Rebecca McClinton

    “Walk back equality before the ink even dries”. I spent many years doing that and overtly promoting how I didn’t see anyone different, using the fact that we’re all from the same source as a weapon. And at the same time constantly scoring (to mean, ‘one point for me’ that I think that way).
    There’s a kids book about people going around putting stars and dots on each other…stars for deeds well done, dots for the opposite. I want to be one to which no dots or stars stick and continue to root out and put aside those harmful measuring sticks that cause both me and others pain. How quickly, how easily, it is to pick them up.

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