Right up front, I am going to issue a STRONG warning to stay in your lane. As a white woman especially, your focus should entirely on your role in how removing resources, security, and most importantly parental support from Black and brown families brings harm and violence to them. This extends out much farther than immediate familial or relational ties. Since this topic is extremely sensitive, if I see any white commentary veering away from white complicity, it will be shut down immediately.
Also this.
The Black woman who wrote this sent it privately. That IS indeed a commentary and critique on our space in regards to the safety she feels and the support, or rather lack of support, she expects to get. This should also be a deep part of your grappling.
This is why I have long held that the focus on Black women as Ground Zero for the liberatory fight is valid. Lessening, mitigating, and moving toward obliterating violence and oppression from Black women will indeed affect other oppressive axes; the converse has not shown to be the case.
Indeed the opposite. The primacy given to white women and their proximity to both whiteness and *selected* parts of Blackness hurts and erases Black women.
_____’s message
“As a black woman, while I hate to do this in a public place I’m going to add that a huge part of this oppression is not just emotional, political, and social but is also economic.
Black men and white women conspire (maybe not consciously, and still) to extricate resources from the black community. They leave women and their children alone to fend for themselves and then judge the women for not being good enough at being everything to everyone.
Then, when Black men die [they] leave the profit of their labor to white women, they leave the inheritance of their families to white women.
Black men who align themselves with white women remove themselves, their leadership and guidance and their resources from the black community and then suggest that Black women should be capable of doing all the things it takes to maintain that community in their own.
And they do this once they are educated and beginning to amass some small or large amount of wealth.
Their adjacency to that whiteness gives them benefits via connections and information that Black women never get.
And Black children left behind don’t have educated and successful men to look up to because they’ve left.
This reinforces [colorism] in the way that mixed children benefit from the presence of their fathers but [the same does] not [hold for] mixed darker skinned children, [who} are more likely to grow up in poverty.
It’s a rabbit hole. Because then white women feel like black women should give them non racist cookies because their dating black men.”
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