Lace on Faith–Fourth Night of Hanukkah

Ancient Rabbis understood the Torah’s assertion that all humans descended from Adam to mean that we are all created equal. No one can ever say “My ancestor is greater than yours,” because we all have the same ancestor. This isn’t a scientific statement, it’s a moral one: We are all part of the same human family, and none of us is more or less important than anyone else.

8 NIGHTS, 8 JEWISH VALUES: REFLECTIONS FOR CHANUKAH ON THE JEWISH OBLIGATION TO BUILD A BETTER WORLD –Sarah Hurwitz

I simply love how Hurwitz approaches the subject of equality, another Jewish value that holds great import as we look through the lens of racial justice.

It’s funny/not funny how equality is thrown about as a concept. It’s funny/not funny how we assert this value, even as we walk it back before the ink gets dry.

I have heard people say ‘I treat everyone like equals’ and look around for the freshest Nutter Butter, not even slightly aware of what they actually said.

Treating people ‘like equals’ is not the same as affirming the value. Hurwitz cuts to the core of the issue when she talks about how we spring from one source. But it’s so easy to forget that, and so easy to, yet again, succumb to how the world keeps score.

Pedigree, heritage, lineage are not in themselves bad things, and I do not at all think that Hurwitz is suggesting that. What they are not are proxies for worth, which is how we often treat them.

It’s true in our individual lives, and it’s also true in how we approach the work and the walk of racial justice.

When we want to prove our bonafides, usually the first thing we do is to tell, and to expect, what we feel are our props for length of time doing the work.

But. My answer to this is often hard to hear–time served counts for little. When people say or do harmful things and are called on it, often the first thing from their lips are variations of the following: ‘But I marched with King!’ ‘I served on a board!’ ‘I took a workshop!’

Worthy things all. And if they were built upon and held fast, all the better.

But in this work, for you, as well as for myself, we cannot rest upon laurels.

Past work you have done can be grounding and foundational. It does not give you a pass to do the work now. Work that was considered cutting edge even ten years ago, needs to be re examined in light of current realities. We need to decide that we will always be learning, which demands a humble teachable spirit.

Put another way, we, part of the same family, must push the reset button everyday. That does not mean that what was learned or lived is unimportant; it can inform our next steps. But insisting that the way that was learned years ago, and who we were years ago leaves us fully equipped for the present is simply not true.

So here at Lace on Race, we don’t flout our achievements in a top down way. Here, we realize that everyone has something to teach us, and that each of us takes the same place at the table, ready to teach and be taught, to be mentored and to mentor, and to affirm the flat and round table where we break bread and remember our shared heritage of justice.

And another day ends.


8 responses to “Lace on Faith–Fourth Night of Hanukkah”

  1. Danielle Joy Holcombe Avatar
    Danielle Joy Holcombe

    When I look back over my own anti-racism journey, I hope and I think that the things I’ve learned along the way are indeed building a foundation. But I can remember how I felt at the start of this. How I felt like a “good person” and hoped for some cookies to be handed out to me for sharing posts and speaking out against racism. I had no credentials to speak of (and still don’t) and yet definitely thought I should be receiving some appreciation.

    I was also talking way more than I was listening and I imagine that I may have been at my most harmful. Even more harmful than my ignorant self that came before. The self that chose ignorance and blamed the oppressed for suffering in oppression. That self still causes me pain when I look at her but in the next moment – I thought I had learned. I thought I understood racism now. I thought I had it all down pat. And I talked and talked with no idea who all I was harming.

    I try to talk less now (while still engaging in community). I definitely understand that this is a lifetime journey of work and will never be done. It will never be time to sit back and rest in this work as finished. I don’t see myself as a “teacher” but I do see that when we are in community together, we can encourage and learn from each other – through our successes and failures.

  2. Danielle Joy Holcombe Avatar
    Danielle Joy Holcombe

    I really appreciate this comment. It is so easy for us as white people to think the work may be done and everything is “okay” now. It makes me think about ways we prefer not to face up to reality. I was talking to my mom about Thanksgiving and Columbus a few years back. We went back and forth a little bit and at the end she basically said that she prefers to believe what she was taught in school. Well, of course you do! Wouldn’t that happy tale of pilgrims and native people sharing a meal together joyfully be great? But that isn’t the history we have and that isn’t the current day reality.

    Now my job is to deal with my own racism and internalized white supremacy, patriarchy, etc. I cannot fix my mother. But I guess I feel a little less judgmental of her than I did when she first said it ~ because I understand that we would all prefer to believe a happier version of events than the actual version playing out before us. It’s time though (passed time), to confront reality both within and outwardly.

  3. Laura Berwick Avatar
    Laura Berwick

    I just finished watching the documentary 13th, and it really ties in with this meaning of equality that you bring up. The 13th amendment was so necessary and late in coming, and then, when it did come, HUGE carve out. Huge.

    Obviously it’s not breaking news that “equality” under the law provides all the cover we need as white people to hide our racism. It’s humbling to think for just a minute about how different the post-war history would have been without that one exception written into the amendment that nominally abolishes slavery.

    There’s a bit where someone discusses how “reform” always ushers in a new method of repression. For me, that is another example highlighting how important our internal work here is. Because that’s what prepared me to see this issue with not just a passively open mind, but an actively questioning one. And it’s what has made me attuned to the need for not just reform, but rewriting, redesign, restructuring.

    Because I believe in and I want to build a true equality, even if I still fail in ways to live it. I want to stop failing, but I don’t want that change to wait for my growth.

  4. Deb Chymiak-Isanhart Avatar
    Deb Chymiak-Isanhart

    One of the many things I love about this space is that I am always presented with new opportunities to look within — new ideas to consider and integrate. It doesn’t matter how long I’ve been walking, there is always more to learn, unlearn and put into action.

    I have experienced “aha moments” after reading words from Lace, from Marlise, from Claire, and other members of the community. This is a space of give and take. I post comments and read those by others because I know that conversation is an opportunity for all of us to grow.

    I hope 2020 is full of conversation, learning and aha’s.

  5. Kathy Avatar
    Kathy

    What I know, what I can offer, pales in comparison to what remains for me to kean, to internalize. Committing to be quicker to listen and learn from the others at the table than to spout what I ‘know’ In this moment. To be slower to just tuck what I’m learning into my already established framework and spend more time looking for how my frame needs to shift and change and grow to accommodate new wisdom.

    I’m thinking a better question is how does my established world view interfere with my ability to understand and embrace the person before me, their experience, my willingness to learn from them, to submit my previously held beliefs to scrutiny?

  6. Alexis Klein Avatar
    Alexis Klein

    As a white woman I am no better than any other white woman. As a white person I’m not better than Black people. I have to remind myself of that everyday.

    In this work I always have to be learning and using what I have learned. And check what I have learned previously to see if I need to unlearn it. I have to hold myself accountable and be active at this table because doing the work on my own doesn’t really accomplish much of anything. I have things to learn from other people. And I can help others learn.

  7. Lacey L Avatar
    Lacey L

    “But insisting that the way that was learned years ago, and who we were years ago leaves us fully equipped for the present is simply not true.”
    YES! This really resonates with me! A lot of what I learned and did years ago, upon reflection, seems just WRONG! And I am uncomfortable realizing that now, but it was what I was taught and believed at the time.
    Now when I hear people saying that they “already had training” I understand where they are coming from, but I see their blind spots and I know from my own experience that it’s a process. It’s never a one and done.

  8. Kathy Kratchmer Avatar
    Kathy Kratchmer

    Beautiful!
    And what a welcoming table it is, filled with opportunities for growth and learning, unlearning, relearning, becoming……together.

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