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Let’s talk about power dynamics and the raw deal white women force upon women of color, and deflected responsibility, and punching down.

This was on my personal page, along with breathless commentary praising both women for their responses.

Really.

There is no call to even try to attempt moral equivalency here; in this case giving the white woman a bye and in so doing, almost suggesting that the two woman stand on the same moral and ethical ground is….welp.

This is part 1 of the deep dive we are going to do this week around white woman violence and the contortions women of color are expected to make.

We will be revisiting two previous pieces that speak to relational dynamic.

Be ready.

As is our new custom: No Reacts (natch); *Absolutely Everyone* is encouraged and expected to comment, and everyone is expected to respond to at least two of their fellow walkers’ comments.

Let’s go!

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Lace on Race Sez:

My take?

This was written by a committee of mostly lawyers and someone who skimmed through the inside jacket cover of ‘White Fragility’.

And it mustn’t be forgotten that, still and as always, the onus of conciliation fell and fell hard on Crissy. It always falls upon us as women of color to always model moderation, and practice affect control, and always burdened to provide the teachable moment for white consumption so that white people can exhale.

There was no other way she could have played it because popular opinion, AKA white opinion, would have turned on a dime and made her the aggressor and all of that sympathy would have gone right back to the perpetrator. That’s the dynamic that needs to be confronted and unpacked.

That said, the white woman invites feedback. And I’m going to give it to her along with the link to Lace on Race.

What’s missing here is the power Dynamic and she alluded to it but she didn’t hit it hard; that’s her lawyer speak along with thing tone deaf instead of racist.

Bluntly, the white woman punched down. And her word choice of ‘white fragility’ instead of calling it what it was, violence, tells me that this was more PR than true reflection, and or the people who advised her, cuz she did not come up with this on her own, the people who advised her also protected her.

That’s one reason I want to get away from the idea of white fragility. Because that word ‘fragile’ perfectly encapsulates why white people protect white women.

So yes she wants feedback; she’ll get feedback. From Lace on Race.

Absent a racial analysis combined with a power analysis, this is at best incomplete.

The white woman displayed a textbook example of offending from the victim position, placing herself as a victim at the hands of these two Asian women, the very epitome of what people in power do as kind of a back door, covert move.

This was about power; only people who feel that they are one up on someone else can indulge themselves in the kind of unbridled self-expression and toxic, disingenuous positioning as the white woman did, while at the same time expecting protection because of that same positioning can get away with these tactics.

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