Facebook Publication Date: 2/8/2020 11:02

It is entirely too risky for any person of color to even consider entering into significant relationships with potential for depth without asking and deeply hearing their answer when they are asked about their commitment to racial justice, and their own internal work regarding same–and to not hear your own internal voice if you feel shaky at the answer.

To do less is to risk emotional immolation. And I am not about to do that for a G&T and rib tips.

Not anymore.

Edited to add: And not just potential romantic relationships, but even, and especially, within friendships.

It is so important to gauge where they are, and *just how far they are willing to go with you*.

It is crucial to see if they, in the name of oft misused terms like ‘boundaries’ and ‘self care’ will choose to, at choice points and pain points, abandon, or gaslight, or deflect, or deny.

It is important to see and discern whether the definitions of terms of racial justice are agreed upon, and are not just tossed off, but rather if they’re deeply internalized, and whether they insist on defining said terms to their benefit, and unilaterally defining their limits.

Community: thoughts?

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